The Cost Of Perfectionism
The cost of Perfectionism
We, as a society, seem to have imprisoned ourselves into an idealistic space of requiring perfection
Perfection of ourselves, our lives and others
Within ourselves,
It has to be perfect, or it’s not right
Forever hammering home the core wound that we’re not good enough
Each and every person I have come into contact with, in the healing space has this wound
You’re not alone here
We are taught from an early age that we should have our sights set on the perfect life
And when its not perfect, then make it look perfect
No missed steps
No mistakes to be bared
No one can see that
And then we wonder why we have a crippling fear of failure
And simultaneously wonder why we can’t be successful
Well. That’s because you’re working for someone else definition of success
Meanwhile, diminishing our own talents and making ourselves small
We render ourselves powerless and stop speaking
Our voice is stolen by Perfectionism
And finally, in a world of “cut off” and “cancel” culture
If someone makes one mistake, makes one decision that doesn’t align with our ideals…
They get cut off, cut out…
Done
Cancelled
Meanwhile we have an epidemic of loneliness
Along side an abundance of “I’m good on my own” and “protecting my peace”
Which when we pull back the curtains of that, there’s also an increase of stats on mental health decline as a result of lack of the basic human needs - physical touch and connection
Let’s be real about what perfectionism is costing us
When people are given opportunity to show up differently, change their perspective and grow into a new level of self awareness- they do - because they have the ability to change and do something differently
For those who don’t, we can take space and still not cut them off
Detach from the outcome of others actions
This is the next level of surrender
When we are striving for life, start with creating a Vision of the life of YOUR dreams.. not someone else’s
Define success for yourself!
and GO FOR THAT!
When we look at ourselves - give ourselves grace to make mistakes, be messy, and EMBRACE the human experience
When we do that, we have a larger opportunity to feel fulfilled in this life
We choose our path differently
AND we have the ability to show up as we truly are, quirks and all
We we show up as REAL as we are, we not only give ourselves the gift of authenticity,
We also give others to decide whether they want to be in our lives or not, and vice versa
We don’t often see that we are grasping onto the wrong people, things, situations and life
As a result of the perfectionism
Perfectionism leads to people pleasing
It leads to leading a life by others design
It leads to unhappiness overall…
And for what…. To have the “perfect life” that has you screaming inside to break out of?
No thank you…
What would your life look like if you could stop.
Take a moment
And envision what you truly want?
I encourage you to do just that.
Stop
Take a moment
And envision what you want for you as an evolving human
For your life
And for those in your life
Do you truly want perfection?
or do you want Authentic, Whole & Human?
